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This is probably a very familiar scenario for people who go and visit a girl in the Philippines. I'm posting this so others can be better prepared.

As you know, we're (foreigners) all rich. The Filippinos know this too and they use it to their advantage.

I met a girl there (from the Internet) and we went out. It was nice. We went out the next day and I met her family. We went for lunch and had a nice meal. At the end of the meal the bill naturally came to me. No one else made any attempt to pay or offer to contribute to the bill. It was just expected. That really annoys me.

What made it worse was that after we sat down for lunch other members of the family appeared and sat down, some (the younger ones) not even saying hello to me.

After lunch we all went out and went on our way. No one, and I mean NO ONE, even said "thanks". Amazing. It was just expected that the rich foreigner would pay the bill for all these people eating.

Don't get me wrong, they were lovely people and very good to me but that ruined it for me. When we got back to the hotel my girl suggested we go out for dinner later with her sister. I said No, I wasn't hungry. What I really wanted to say was that I was sick of buying food for her freeloading family....but that would have been rude of me.

It wasn't an isolated incident either. I've met other girls there who like to bring their friend(s) along and I get to buy all the drinks/food. Those girls don't get a second chance with me either.

So, what's the correct etiquette for dealing with situations like this?